Enneagram, United Methodist Church

Striving for Perfection…ism

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A few months ago, our church spent some time looking at the Enneagram. The Enneagram is like a personality test that allows folks to gain a deeper insight about who they are and how they are built. There are nine type of personalities in the enneagram, and I have discovered that I identify as type One – The Perfectionist. 

As a Perfectionist, I like things to be done a certain way. Ones, in general, have a need to be right, do the right thing, and to live right. We avoid fault, blame, chaos, and disorder. 

In their book The Enneagram: A Christian Perspective, Richard Rohr and Andreas Ebert write, “The Apostle Paul was a one. He was a Pharisee. Ones were born Pharisees.”

I have a hard time thinking about Ones being connected to the Pharisees. After all, Jesus seemed to be pretty upset with them throughout Scripture. However, I can somewhat understand the motivations behind the Pharisees’ actions. The Pharisees are just trying to do what they think is the right thing. They are trying to maintain order in the midst of chaos. They are driven by their need to restore order and bring about perfection in an imperfect world. This is why Ones are often criticized for being critical of themselves and of others. They are driven by their need to “fix” things.

Recently someone told me that being a One is the hardest type to be. I don’t know how much truth there is to that, but I can understand why they said it. The defining characteristic of a one is the inner critic that they hear inside your head. “I’m not good enough. I need to be better. I need to be perfect.”

In his book Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Nathaniel Branden writes, “In the inner courtroom of my mind, mine is the only judgment that counts.” 

This inner voice forces Ones to constantly seek out “perfection” whatever that might be. This is a voice that Ones know all too well.

Perhaps my “One-ness” is what draws me so much to the United Methodist Church. As Methodists we believe in Christian Perfection.

Now, when we think of the word “perfection,” all sorts of things come to mind. We think about being flawless and being beyond reproach. We think about being like Superman and never making a mistake. When we think about being perfect, we think about someone who has their lives completely figured out and never makes a false step.

But this isn’t what John Wesley, the founder of the Methodist movement, had in mind when he spoke of Christian Perfection. Instead, Christian Perfection means that you have gotten to the point where you truly love God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength. And you truly love your neighbor as you love yourself (Matthew 22:37, 38). Christian Perfection is not something that we can work to attain on our own, but this is something that God does through us and even despite us.

Jesus calls us to be perfect as God is perfect, but this doesn’t mean that we need to fall into the trap of Perfectionism. Instead, God invites us to go on a journey where we become more and more like Jesus.

Ones sometimes need to be reminded that we are called to be perfect like Jesus, not “perfect” like the Pharisees.

So, may God work within our hearts and minds as we strive to love God and love our neighbors.

– Andrew Lay
History, Holy Spirit

Come and Tour England Without Leaving Athens

Statue of John Wesley in front of Wesley’s Chapel City Road in London, England 

Twenty-two years ago, in July 1997, my mom and I went on a Wesley Heritage Tour of England and Scotland with my home church, First United Methodist in Marion, Virginia. Our pastor at the time, Rev. J.N. Howard and his wife Ella organized and led the trip, and several of the adults in the church I had long known and admired as Sunday school teachers, ushers, and leaders went as well. Mom wanted to go, and I was free that summer, so I offered to go along as her chaperone, you know, to make sure she behaved.

We visited such places as the home in Epworth where John and Charles Wesley were raised by their parents, Samuel and Susanna. We visited Lincoln College in Oxford where they began meeting together in small groups and were called derogatory names like “Bible-moths” and “Methodists” (for their methodical approach to study and fellowship). We visited Aldersgate Street in London where John had his heartwarming experience that assured him of his salvation. We visited historic Methodist preaching houses like the City Road Chapel in London and the New Room in Bristol. And we visited several other sites of general interest, such as Westminster Abbey, St. Paul’s Cathedral, the Roman baths in Bath, and Stonehenge. The history of both Great Britain and Methodism came alive for me that summer!

It was the summer before I started seminary in Atlanta. Tracy and I had met that spring, and by July our relationship was blossoming into something more than mere friendship. As I read my journal from that trip, I remember calling her from various pay phones in our hotels where I had to keep feeding pound coins every so often to keep the connection. Obviously, the connection was kept!

Three years later, after Tracy and I were married in 2000, we took advantage of an opportunity that was available at the time for seminarians to come and serve a one-year appointment in the British Methodist Church, which had more churches to serve than pastors available to serve them. We were appointed to serve five churches on a circuit in the far southwesternmost part of England, in the county of Cornwall, in a town called Penzance, which until then I didn’t realize was a real place. I thought it only existed in the imagination of Gilbert & Sullivan. Tracy and I quickly came to appreciate this area as rich in Celtic, Wesleyan and Methodist history. One of the churches I served was called Wesley Rock, as the pulpit was built upon a rock from which John Wesley preached when he visited there.

It was in the spring of our year over there in 2001 that we learned I was to be appointed as the associate pastor here at Keith Church in Athens, Tennessee! It just so happened that the senior pastor at the time, the Rev. Dr. Stella Roberts and her husband Sam were leading a Wesley heritage tour very much like the one my mom and I had experienced. We arranged to meet up in Bath, and it was there I met some of my futureparishioners, folks like Kate Bledsoe, Cindy Runyan, and Larry and Sarah Kerr. Stella and Sam have led several such Wesleyan heritage tours, including one this past spring, and they haveimpacted the lives and faith of several people, just as these experiences have impacted my own life and faith.

This summer, you have an opportunity to have a similar experience of a Wesleyan heritage tour, though without having to take the time away from home or pay the cost! For the next six weeks, Andrew and I are leading a study by the Rev. Adam Hamilton called “Revival.” A few summers ago, Hamilton traveled with the same company as my mom and I did, and this video study takes us to some of these very same places that were so formative in the Methodist revival movement – the rectory in Epworth, the college grounds at Oxford, the chapels in Bristol and London. I hope you will come along for this journey with us – Wednesdays at 6 and Thursdays at 11 – and maybe you will experience a heartwarming revival in your own spiritual life and faith.

– Dave Graybeal